Yesterday I turned 18. I felt like I’d been 17 for so long, the year did drag but I’m glad it has as it’s been the best year of my life. I’ve done a lot of growing, changing and made SO many memories. I’ve spent the majority of the year with a cheesy grin plastered across my face and I’ve got a feeling my year being 18 is going to be even better. So, I thought I’d share 17 things I’ve learnt in my 17th year…
- Do things for myself not anybody else
I started my blog this year, the reason for my reluctance beforehand was because I thought nobody would read it and I’d be judged. But I started blogging because it was something that I wanted to do for me and if it impacted others positively, even one person, I’d be over the moon. It’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made and I’m so glad, nearly nine months on, that I can say ‘I’m a blogger’.
- It’s a journey, not a race
I’m usually the most impatient person when it comes to getting things done, I like to start and finish in one day. So when I started driving lessons on my 17th birthday I thought I’d be passed my Christmas, boy was I wrong. I did have a bad experience with my first instructor but my second instructor, whom I passed with, was amazing, he really restored my confidence as was so patient with my apologetic, anxious self. I took me around 60 lessons, over a thousand pound and a lot of tears but I got there and passed on the 14th of June. I learnt so much in my time of learning to drive, the most important thing was to be patient it’d have happened eventually I just needed to ride out the journey rather than sprinting through the race.
- Know your worth
Something that I learnt was that my worth was not determined by how other people treated me. After being quite badly treated by my first instructor I felt like a mouse, I thought there was something seriously wrong with me if someone would speak to me as he did. But no, I’m worth a lot. He, and nobody else, can determine my worth by how they treat me. I decide that and I’m worth a lot.
- No rain, no flowers
This was something I put on my Insta story recently, when I was having a bad day. Bad days do happen, they serve a purpose though, without me we wouldn’t be able to appreciate the good ones. I’m so lucky that my good days far outnumber the bad ones.
- Do what makes your soul shine
This is mainly in relation to my blog but I learnt to do the things that made me feel my happiest, that made me literally glow and feel fulfilled. I decided this year to do these things as they had such positive repercussions on my mental health, my blog has helped my anxiety more than most therapy sessions, it really brings out the best in me.
- Believe in yourself
Self belief is so crucial to me. If I don’t believe in myself, who else is going too? I like to believe that I’m going to do amazing things and that what I’m doing is great (even though sometimes it isn’t).
- Be my own biggest fan
This links in with the last one really, as well as believing what I’m doing is the best thing ever, I like to be my own fan. This year I’ve learnt to love the things that I do that I sometimes might not take credit for. Especially my blog which I absolutely love, I’m so proud of it which is something that last year I would never take credit for but I work blooming hard on it and deserve to be my own fan.
- Grow through what you go through
There’s nothing wrong with making mistakes, I probably make far too many so this year I’ve learnt to learn from them and grow through them. This can even be applied to situations that don’t include mistakes, for example when I’m having a bad day/time I try and tell myself that I’m growing through it.
- Kill it with kindness
I experienced so much kindness when I joined the blogging community and it inspired me so so much. ‘Kill it with kindness’ is one of my favourite mottos, I try to channel it in a lot of difficult situations.
- Confidence is within
I had no confidence this time last year. Literally none. I wouldn’t have believed you if you’d have told me a year on I’d be as confident as I am now. Looking back I like to think I had it in me all this time, I just needed to activate it.
- Appreciate everything
I am so incredibly lucky in so many aspects of my life and I really learnt in the past year to appreciate everything, even the littlest of things. I am so appreciative of everything now, which I think is so important.
- Be a cheerleader
I like to think of myself as a cheerleader for my family and friends, I’m stood on the sidelines while they’re bossing their lives cheering them on and being their biggest fan. I think this is my favourite thing that I’ve learnt this year, being supportive to other people is magical.
- Say yes!
This links in with the confidence, when I had no confidence I said no to every opportunity. But now I take up as many opportunities as I can, I don’t want to miss out on any experiences because of my confidence. I like to say yes and not overthink situations.
- Document/saviour memories
I take so many photographs, print them all off and put them all in a photo album. I like to think they’ll be looked at by generations to come, which makes my heart feel so warmed.
- Be selfish
This does not count for every situation, it is important in certain situations to put others before yourself. However, I like to be selfish in terms of doing things for other people that I don’t want to do and think of myself first and foremost. This might not make sense to other people but it’s something that I have learnt in the past year.
- Be impulsive
I have tried to be as impulsive as possible this year. Spontaneity used to be my worst nightmare when I was controlled by my anxiety but as I’ve not let my anxiety become me I’ve loved being spontaneous. Especially since I passed my driving test, I have just loved being impulsive.
- There are so many reasons to be happy
There really are. I like to write down all of the things that make me happy when I’m not feeling great and it is a life saver. It really lifts your mood and I love doing it. Paying attention to the little things in life that brings you even the smallest amount of happiness and being grateful for it is just magical.
Thank you so so much for reading this post, I loved writing it, I had the best year being 17 and cannot wait for the year ahead. I’d also like to apologise for my break from social media/blogging, I had a little trip away then got ill and then it was my birthday but I’m back now. Also, thank you for 200 followers I’m so so grateful!
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